10 Nightmares New age Mom faces

Our minds are filled with images of happy pregnant and new moms we see on billboards, ads and pinterest. But truth may not be always this…..

Becoming a mother is like discovering the existence of a strange new room in the house where you already live –  Sarah Walker

Are you pregnant, Are you going to start this journey or are you already a new mom. This post is for you all. The true fact is however well you prepare mentally and physically and how much ever you read about motherhood, the moment the little one is born, a mother feels as if she is on a roller coaster ride.

The lifestyle and parenting magazines have created a false image that journey of being pregnant and motherhood is something one should for sure enjoy and it only has happiness. Our minds are filled with images of happy pregnant and new moms we see on billboards, ads and pinterest. But truth may not be always this…..

1.For most new moms, breast-feeding doesn’t come easily

Though breastfeeding is a natural process, it need not be easy. Less than 50% moms manage to breast-feed exclusively for the six months that are recommended for a baby’s health. The moms who quit mostly are those who have faced trouble with breast-feeding in the first week with a new baby.

  • Sore or Burning nipples
  • Poor or Excess milk supply
  • Plugged milk ducts
  • Flat or inverted nipples
  • Breast infection
  • Breast engorgement
  • Latching problem

2.Hate every minute of pregnancy

Half the female population hate being pregnant. Many a times people around and society are only happy about the pregnancy news and mother to be is left to bear all the pain and trauma associated with pregnancy by themselves. The process of carrying fetus for 40+ weeks is a tough job and for large number of women the journey becomes tougher with accounts of morning sickness, constipation, fatigue, body ache, swollen ankles and sore breasts.

Journey becomes tougher with accounts of morning sickness, constipation, fatigue, body ache, swollen ankles and sore breasts

Many people assume that if you hate being pregnant, you’ll hate being a mother.The fact is to hate ‘pregnancy’ is normal. Not liking pregnancy has no correlation with not liking the ‘Baby’.

3.Some moms don’t bond with their baby instantly

Studies have found that about 20% of new moms and dads feel no real emotional attachment to their newborn in the hours after delivery. Sometimes, it takes weeks or even months to feel that attachment.  Many a times moms are just too exhausted, too ill, too anxious or too scared to let themselves fall in love immediately.

4.New moms face increased risks for a variety of mental problems

The first three months after women have their first baby is riskiest, especially the first few weeks. Compared to women with no children, new mothers were four times more likely to be hospitalized with mental problems. Mental problems include in addition to postpartum depression, bipolar disorder, with altering periods of depression and mania; schizophrenia and similar disorders; and adjustment disorders, which can include debilitating anxiety.

Mental health is crucial to a mother’s capacity to function optimally, enjoy relationships, prepare for the infant’s birth, and cope with the stresses and appreciate the joys of parenthood.

5.Pregnancy can cause memory loss

Researchers reveal that ‘baby brain‘ is not a myth and new mothers suffer forgetfulness for years.  New moms tend to forget new phone numbers or people’s names, or recalling five or six digits for a short period of time. Hormones play a crucial role here. There is 15 to 40 times more progesterone and estrogen marinating the brain during pregnancy and huge surges of oxytocin during delivery which might affect the brain circuits.

6.Link exist between pregnancy complications and heart disease

Women who have high-risk pregnancies or complications in childbirth are up to eight times more likely to have heart disease later in life.  Research shows that heart disease is a long-term threat for women who develop diabetes or high blood pressure during pregnancy. An increased awareness need to be created in doctors and patients about this scenario. A continuous follow up should be suggested for women who develop diabetes and high blood pressure during pregnancy.

7.Gestational Diabetes can affect mom and baby if not managed properly

Gestational diabetes raises the odds of pregnancy complications.

For the Baby:

Higher blood sugar affects  baby, since they gets nutrients from mother’s blood. Baby will store that extra sugar as fat, which can make them grow larger than normal. They’re more likely to have certain complications:

  • Injuries during delivery because of their size
  • Low blood sugar and mineral levels when they’re born
  • Jaundice, a treatable condition that makes the skin yellowish
  • Pre-term birth
  • Temporary breathing problems

For Mother:

Mother can develop type 2 diabetes later or gestational diabetes again with another pregnancy. A healthy lifestyle can lower the odds of that happening.

8.Pregnancy and annoying Skin problems

During pregnancy many women turns from Snowhite to Witch. The skin problems during and post pregnancy makes some of them run for cosmetic care. Acne to stretch marks to strange rashes troubles women. While some moms-to-be find themselves dealing with acne break out, others are found dealing with drier skin than they’ve ever experienced. Pregnant moms should try to stay out of the sun as much as you possible as surging hormones make one susceptible to dark patches on skin—known as melasma.  Stretch marks many a times leave permanent scar.

9.New moms are more susceptible to Urinary Tract Infection

Urinary tract infection (UTI) occurs frequently in women and its chances ups post delivery. The incidence of post partum UTI is about 2.8% overall including caesarean sections and normal vaginal deliveries. It is higher after caesarean section possibly due to catheterization. Use of sanitary pads post partum also may contribute to the higher incidence of UTI.

10.Pain point of all women…shed extra kilos

Most women on an average gain around 5-10 kilos during pregnancy. Post pregnancy with the additional food intake in the name of baby results in adding up couple of more kilos. Finally a thin slim girl turns into a bulky, oversized women. The struggle to lose weight starts soon with running, jogging, hitting gym, cutting down on calories and many more. On an average most of these programs fail to generate results due to lack of commitment and work overload.

Probably because of that most women meet their buddies in gym or park…….in the name of losing weight.

 

This post is in association with Blog Marathon #womenwellness that will have 12 bloggers with 12 different topics related to Women Health & Wellness. Thank you, Jayshree Bhagat, for introducing me. Read Jayshree’s blog HERE. Follow her on FacebookInstagram & Twitter for more updates.

 Next in series is Nisha Malik who blogs at www.highongloss.com. You can also follow her on Instagram,  Twitter & visit her Facebook page for more updates.

 

39 thoughts on “10 Nightmares New age Mom faces

  1. Such an informative post… Luckily I have a good pregnant period… No morning sickness, nuessa, vomiting nothing happened throughout the 9 months journey.. I enjoyed every bit.. I loved the pampering of family member’s and specially husband’s.. But after baby the first month was really tough.. I too faced breast feeding issues due to flat nipple, but some how manage to keep him on only breastfeed him six month.. Infact I breastfed him for 2 years along with other solid foods obviously… It is completely true that, motherhood is not a easy journey…

  2. Wow. These are the exact things that most women experiences, especially pregnant ones and those who already gave birth. This is so relatable that makes them not being insecure of their body that it is okay, because everybody goes through this every time. I hope moms will read this and help them individually with their struggles.
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  3. My wife is pregnant and about to deliver, I can’t imagine what she is going through right now, this post has helped me a lot to understand. Thanks for writing this, keep writing and inspiring.

    • Wow..I am so happy that this post reached you at right time. Congratulations and support your wife. She is on a roller coaster ride….

  4. This is soo good.. I just kept nodding my head while reading through… And it’s so true.. No one talks or tells you about any of these.. Will surely bookmark this one to share with my friends too

    • True. We are never informed about the negative sides of pregnancy. I feel I would have handled it better if knew all these things then

  5. I guess new mom’s initially don’t focus on these so much because they are happy to begin the new part of their life. I haven’t personally been through this but just gathering from what my friends said.

    • It’s the hormones and biochemical reactions that create mayhem. It’s good to have an understanding of what all can go wrong too, so that one can be prepared to face it better

  6. Memory loss and depression were things I faced, but I overcame it with help from family and friends.. yes, motherhood isn’t instantly gratifying- some of us take the time to settle into it – while for most others, it is an instant!

  7. You have given some very good points to your readers … It is very true that in the name of baby family members will give you more more food ..
    Result, I was under weight and now over weight … “a thin slim girl turns into a bulky, oversized women”

  8. This is an informative post I must say all Pregnant womens should read this and especially their husbands. What a women needs during this phase is support and love. Thanks for sharing

  9. I feel you girl.. The skin darkening and itching was ughhh.. But I loved how my hair felt. They were all shiny and black and love. Still struggling with my belly and weight 😐 😐

  10. Thanks for spreading this awareness, women should know what to expect. And I love the line that hating pregnancy doesn’t not mean a mom will hate her baby. I hated my pregnancy to the core, due to backache, nausea, discomfort due to growing weight!

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